What’s Next?: Detaching from the Quest for Certainty

Not many things cause me as much distress as not knowing what comes next. Which is puzzling as my entire life reveals a pattern of these situations where I'm caught in limbo, unsure of what lays ahead. The most wonderful things happen then. After the 2010 Earthquake in Haiti pushed me to finish high school …

Letting Go: Controlling the Illusion of Control

I used to have a big complex about driving. I mean, huge. My parents never owned a car. I didn't own my first one until I turned 22 and started my “big girl” job after graduation. Not having a car dominated every aspect of my life. It was the reason why I skipped class, why …

Maternal Shortcomings: An Essay

When I was four years old, I had an almost inappropriate obsession with Lauryn Hill. At the time, she was singing with The Fugees alongside Wyclef Jean. They had this popular video filmed in Haiti for the song “Yele”. I still remember butchering the lyrics, desperately trying to stay on the beat. I was mesmerized …

On Adulting: A Mission to Unlearn

“Emotional.” As women, we’ve heard that word often uttered with judgment or paternalistic benevolence. We choose early where we’ll fall on the spectrum. Some figured out balance and went on to live well-adjusted long lives. Others overindulged, while I personally went the other way, the repressed way. Emotions are those things that you simply can’t …

Cancel Culture: A Discussion on Boundaries

I rarely use Twitter. When I do, it’s mostly to stalk my favorite authors and scream into the void. Despite my unfamiliarity with the idiosyncrasies that govern the Twittersphere, the think pieces written about the think pieces about “cancel culture” have managed to reach my exasperated eyes. Just what is cancel culture? As Robinson Meyer …